While reading Sean Wee’s love for his grandmother and Patrick Chua’s love for his mother who lost the battle to cancer, I was moved to tears of their unconditional love to their relatives (Send a message from beyond the grave, last Sunday April 8,2018, The Sunday Times).
Often, we find it awkward to reveal our heartfelt feelings to those whom we care about deeply. Perhaps it’s our Asian culture that restricts us from being so expressive.
Feelings of fear, uncertainty, denial, anger, guilt, stress, anxiety, loneliness, isolation, sadness and depression are all a normal part of the cancer experience.
Sharing our emotions helps to release any anxiety we may be having. It can also help improve communication between people, and to this end, I applaud former broadcast engineer Philip Tay in going public on his battle with dual cancer. Tay is a brave man who now has the golden opportunity to express his true feelings and love to his daughter once he passes on in ZinniaAfternote’s Time Capsule through the combined efforts of Chua and Wee.
Knowing that a loved one has cancer gives the caregivers ample time to make advance plans and choices, that includes making a will and this service is also provided by ZinniaAfternote.
The reality is that life on this earth is only temporary and as a family, as a community, we should all endeavor to live a life of no regrets – more so when life is so unpredictable. Bottom line: Do as much good deeds as we can so that when we eventually pass on, our conscience will be clear and we will have no fears whatsoever.
The choice is ours to make.
Raymond Anthony Fernando