While reading Sean Wee’s love
for his grandmother and Patrick Chua’s love for his mother who lost the battle
to cancer, I was moved to tears of their unconditional love to their relatives (Send
a message from beyond the grave, last Sunday April 8,2018, The Sunday Times).
Often, we find it awkward to
reveal our heartfelt feelings to those whom we care about deeply. Perhaps it’s our Asian culture that restricts
us from being so expressive.
Feelings of
fear, uncertainty, denial, anger, guilt, stress, anxiety, loneliness,
isolation, sadness and depression are all a normal part of the cancer
experience.
Sharing our emotions helps to
release any anxiety we may be having. It can also help improve communication
between people, and to this end, I applaud former broadcast engineer Philip Tay
in going public on his battle with dual cancer.
Tay is a brave man who now has the golden opportunity to express his true
feelings and love to his daughter once he passes on in ZinniaAfternote’s Time
Capsule through the combined efforts of Chua and Wee.
Knowing that
a loved one has cancer gives the caregivers ample time to make advance plans
and choices, that includes making a will and this service is also provided by
ZinniaAfternote.
The reality is that life on
this earth is only temporary and as a family, as a community, we should all
endeavor to live a life of no regrets – more so when life is so unpredictable.
Bottom line: Do as much good deeds as we can so that when we eventually pass
on, our conscience will be clear and we will have no fears whatsoever.
The choice is ours to make.
Raymond Anthony Fernando
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